Introducing
The Pattern Spotter
Answer four questions and find out exactly which pattern is still running your life, where it started, and the one place you have more power than you think. Yours to keep, too — sent to your inbox as a PDF.
Free to start — you only choose a price once your reading is ready. Instant access, no account needed. Four questions, five sections back. Written by a psychologist, not a chatbot.
Real talk
You know something is off. You just can't name it.
And until you can name it, nothing actually changes.
Maybe it's the business that won't grow no matter what you try. Maybe it's a fear that showed up out of nowhere and doesn't seem to match the moment. Maybe it's the same role you keep playing with your parents, no matter how much distance you've put between you.
This is probably closer to your reality than you'd expect:
Something keeps not working, and you've tried everything
A business that almost grows and then stalls. A relationship pattern you keep rebuilding under a new name.
A fear showed up that doesn't match the moment
Suddenly scared of flying, of driving, of losing someone, and you can't quite explain why now.
You keep playing the same role with the same people
Around your parents, your family, certain old friends, you become a version of yourself you thought you'd outgrown.
You already know the word for it, but naming it hasn't changed anything
You've read the books, done the therapy, and you can still feel it running.
"You're not broken. You're just still inside a pattern you haven't been able to see."
That's exactly what the Pattern Spotter gives you: the name of the pattern, where it came from, and where it's still running.
What shifts when you can finally see the pattern
You know what you actually want
Not what you've talked yourself into accepting, clearly enough to act on it.
You stop feeling like a guest in your own life
You're in the room, in the decision, in the conversation, as yourself.
You see exactly where the pattern still has grip
You stop being surprised by the moments you go small.
You understand why you built it, without shame
The pattern made sense when it started. Seeing that clearly changes what it means about you.
5 steps to your pattern, named precisely and in full
You walk away knowing what the pattern is, where it came from, and where you're less stuck than you think.
Describe the situation you keep finding yourself in
A recurring moment where you hold back, shrink, perform, or act against what you actually want.
Name what you tell yourself about why you do it
The story you've been carrying, so the tool can show you what's underneath it.
Name where you first learned this was the safest way to be
A memory, a person, a period, whatever comes to mind first.
Choose what feels most true, then receive your reading
Pick the explanation that lands, even if it stings, then get five sections back, sent to your inbox as a PDF too.
Use the practice to try, then run it again with new information
Each pass goes deeper. Different situations, different layers, the same pattern seen from a new angle.
This is for you if
What people are saying
"Thank you for this! The results put tears in my eyes. It felt very personal and safe. Easy to use, and I liked the feature where you choose what fits best."
"This isn't something you rush through. I really had to slow down and tune in to feel where it actually came from, especially since the options were so close to each other. There's so much nuance in how it spots the pattern and what's underneath it, it's brilliant. Your voice is woven through the whole thing. And the way it lands softly at the end, with something real to do next, felt really good."
"The story I might be telling myself really resonated. A beautiful insight came out of it."
"I was hesitant to trust an AI tool. What I liked is that you get multiple possible answers, two didn't land, the third did. It's clearly reasoned, so you can choose the one that actually fits you. I came out of it more self-aware."
"I really love the thorough explanation, and the way it lovingly acknowledges why the pattern developed in the first place."
"You don't get the feeling you did something wrong, but you do get complete honesty."
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Get the Pattern Spotter now
A psychologist-led session that covers pattern identification, origin tracing, and blind spot mapping costs upward of €150 per hour, and rarely covers all five in one sitting. The Pattern Spotter delivers all five sections in minutes, the moment you answer your questions — no appointment needed.
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A note from Myrthe
Hey, I'm Myrthe.
I'm a psychologist and the founder of Beyond Psychology. My work is about helping you break free from the systems that kept you small: the family system you grew up in, the attachment patterns and coping strategies you built as a child that made sense then and don't now, and the wider forces, patriarchy, capitalism, gender conditioning, that reinforced all of it, by unshaming what was never actually wrong with you. I built the Pattern Spotter because you already know the word for what you do: people-pleasing, fawning, performing. What you don't have is someone looking at your specific situation and saying clearly, here is your pattern, here is where it came from, and here is the place you're less stuck than you think.
That's what the Pattern Spotter gives you. Not soft coaching. Precise, accurate, and without judgment.
Myrthe
Every day without a name for it is another day inside it
Three months from now, without naming this, you are still editing yourself mid-sentence. The pattern doesn't dissolve on its own. Naming it doesn't take months. It takes four questions.
Are you ready, even if you've tried everything before?
RECAP: what's inside
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